Helping you get off the sidelines and Into The Arena by sharing thoughts, stories, and strategies on fatherhood, faith, fitness, and more as I learn and grow as a husband and father. Raising 2 children with my wife of a decade while also leading a men's community of 60+ high value men.
The Schiff Shakedown - It's okay to step away
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Things have been pretty stressful in my life as of late... We are in the process of buying a new home and getting ours ready to put on the market. They say this is one of the most stressful things you can go through as a family... And I believe it! My wife and I have moved 8 times in our 10 years of marriage and even though you'd think we are professionals by now, this one has been particularly stressful. Sunday morning I could feel it building. My temper was starting to boil up at the slightest thing. I was distracted for much of the church service. My wife was going to be gone all afternoon working and it was just going to be me and the kids the rest of the day. I told my wife "when we get home, can I just get 5 minutes before you leave to center myself?" She said absolutely. I took a few minutes, went for a quick walk around the block, prayed and surrendered my stress and this whole situation over to God. Felt so much better. Is the stress completely gone? No. Am I calmer and more at peace? Definitely. I call this the Power of the Pause. It's okay to raise your hand and say "I need a minute". My wife is so receptive to this because it's 1000x better than the alternative of me blowing up or having an anxiety attack (story for another day). As men, we are told that we have to constantly hold it together and be the rock, which is true to some extent, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't take care of ourselves and communicate to those around us what we need to make that happen. Give it a shot. Look for opportunities in your daily life to just pause, take a few deep breaths, say a quick prayer, and re-center yourself. This is especially powerful in 2 scenarios I've noticed:
I hope this has been helpful and I will continue to share these stories in hopes that you can see that you're not the only one who has these same struggles. Thanks for reading and God bless! -Mike |
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Helping you get off the sidelines and Into The Arena by sharing thoughts, stories, and strategies on fatherhood, faith, fitness, and more as I learn and grow as a husband and father. Raising 2 children with my wife of a decade while also leading a men's community of 60+ high value men.
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